The new year typically brings with it a set of ‘resolutions’ – changes we want to make. Sometimes they last a short time and others longer. For many of us they simply don’t last! Change starts with us an individual. For lasting results we have to be real – have a goal or steps to get to where we would like to be.
Fitness is a steady process. For lasting fitness and changes we have to take steps – gradually. Your body as is – is an amazing gift. Everyday it gets you through each part of your life, when you are asleep it goes into auto mode keeping you alive and well. When you get sick it fights for you and when you are well helps you feel good – more energy. Its a complex system of many parts that we take for granted.
Look at your feet! They get us to walk every day, to run, to step, to avoid crashing into someone. They help us drive our car, catch our bus or train, exercise, swim, they wait patiently as you attend work waiting for you to stand up and move again. They are a huge part of our body system and many times the only thoughts we give them is when we kick our toes or put our shoes on.
Fitness is as individual as you! No one can wave a magic wand and say “there you go”. A one size fits all approach to getting well and stronger. Every body shape, every age, every person is unique. Fitness needs to be fun – something you enjoy doing.
I know what it is like when you are feeling yuck and no energy. You feel about as inspired as a peace of burnt bread! You just want to curl up go back to sleep. You get up you feel sluggish and bloated. Still you get up and move – nature has a way of doing that every morning. You may not feel like making the coffee and even after drinking it – slow to get going. Its ok we have days like this!
Then there are the great days you bounce out of bed feeling great! A new day awesome new ideas and things to explore. Then the days inbetween which are a mix mash of many emotions and experiences. Fitness is about being real – being you! Find something you enjoy, try something new – learn to accept that reflection in the mirror. Change takes time and we are energy beings – that is another story!
Everyone imagines the joy of being loved and wanted so desperately. Girls long for the vampiric type of love portrayed in novels and guys may want a woman who worships the ground he walks on. Neither are real or helpful yet this is what our society bombards us with on a daily basis. You have to have to fit into a particular mould to be happy – own certain things, etc, reality it’s a load of nonsense! Yes it’s nice to have the ideal image and money, however, real happiness starts within you!
It’s not about bouncing from one relationship to another. Yes the first fluctuations of love are awesome – when the emotions die down, its time to move onto the next one. Except you still have to live in your own skin – look at your reflection In the mirror. If you are not happy now – that will not change unless you do some work for you!
I am learning to be happy in my own skin – own the body, emotions, memories, choices and more I have made over time. Own that the past is my creation, today being explored and the future to come. That what I want to do is my responsibility – I create my own reality.
Some things have happened that were extremely confrontational for me. The past and today collided – yet looking into them at a different angle – I shocked myself with my reactions. As we age we are vastly different from our 20’s or younger years in more ways than one.
I found myself thinking being more open minded, not so insecure in my own skin knowing that no matter what happens I will be ok – so will the other people. Yes, hurt is there, a bit of disbelief, then a question of if they are so unhappy why not do something about it? Taking a different approach – works out well – no one needs to be a doormat or let doubt and rage creep in. I made some classic stuff ups growing up and still do – yet to this day – I have no regrets as I would not be the person I am.
I wonder what drove this person to their actions – what the payoff is? Still no one can live a person’s life for them – you need to let the air in and change happen. I am stronger because of this and appreciate myself and others more than before. Sometimes you have to lose yourself to discover who you are. You need to give the people you love the freedom to live life – for them to risk and you as well as its natural. Sometimes routine kicks in and you wonder “is this it”?
I see many of you going through pain and confrontation – there is light at the other side of the darkness. The pendulum swings again – the sun comes up and moon rises. You breathe change with every breath you take. Hang in there – the people who hurt you with their actions, the people you have hurt – will all be ok with time.
Everyone is our teacher and there is always something to learn. Living your dreams takes courage and every day you have courage when you open your eyes to face they day. To when you go to bed and beyond in your dreams.
One big thing I have learnt with this new era of work – its not the weight, height, body shape, age,medical conditions, lifestyle that matter in the here and now. Its being ok in your skin, being ok with being healthier not comparing yourself to 20 or so years ago. Its not about kicking yourself or comparing yourself to others. My motto is to help people look at themselves and see the beauty within. To see a persons eyes light up, the inner soul and spirit being fed coming to life…to say hey I can do that or I did it! You are all so much more than what you see. To exercise is to move..its to dance..to listen to the rain on the roof, move with the beat of life or create a new drum beat of your own. Nothing is impossible even when the voice in your head – the wounded one who does not want to see you change because it is scared..it is ok. Work through your fear even if it is uncomfortable. For out the other side is a new life with many possibilities you could only ever dream of.
The perfect body differs greatly from one person and from culture to another. What would be considered “perfect” for one may be the exact opposite for someone else. So while we are human each of our own version of “the perfect body” is vastly different. What you may not like about yourself – someone else would think it is perfect and wish they were that way themselves.
I always wanted to be taller and thinner than I was – genetics and logistics won’t let me be taller. I will never be a Victoria Secret Model in height or size as I am a small height and solid build (which I am getting leaner/muscle toned). It took me a long time to be grateful for my body and weight. Still a work in progress as we always are – evolving and changing.
While you will have your version of the “perfect body”, I believe its more important to be the best version of you. As you are now and will be in the future. Appreciating yourself and being grateful for your amazing body that gets you through every day, every emotion, every meal and every breathe. The one that moves you around, helps you live each day and keeps you alive. No matter what shape, colour of skin, scars, age, wrinkles, muscles, height or anything else in your body – it is an incredible gift.
You are a miracle of creation – there is only one of you – even identical twins are different! You are more than the reflection you see and body you dress every day. You already are amazing even if you do not feel it or are unable to see it at the moment. You are complex, funny, inspirational and motivational. There is so much more to you than you realize. Yes being healthy is a huge gift, managing any physical or emotional illnesses challenging. Looking after yourself as you would look after others is a big change for many people.
You may not think so – you are “perfect” as you are and a work in progress. Like a beautiful artform created over a period of time. The artisan had an idea and saw something in that paint or piece of stone no one could see. Through time, effort, love – change took place and look what came from their vision. You are always evolving and changing – there’s only one of you. You deserve to be happy, healthy, loved and appreciated for who you are – starting with the one you see in the mirror.